She may fear that she won’t be believed. So many abusers are very charismatic, fun-loving and charming when they are around other people. It’s not until they are behind closed doors that the other side of them is revealed
The most important thing to realize when dealing with a victim is that they have been through a lot. They are broken and exhausted. If they seem distracted, have a hard time concentrating on one thing, feel overwhelmed…it’s because their mind has been twisted by the abuser and they are exactly those things…overwhelmed, distracted, and stressed.
Happy Independence Day! Sorry I have been MIA lately. It’s been a while since I have blogged, but there’s a good reason for that…I’ve been busy! HA! There has been a LOT going on and I want to share that with you. This day has always had a special meaning for me. On … Continue reading I’m Baaack! Let’s Catch Up!
The landscape of the American family has changed drastically over the past fifty years or so. At one point in our country’s history, most families generally consisted of a father who went to work and provided income, and a mother who didn’t work outside of the home, but instead, raised the children and took care … Continue reading When Domestic Violence Comes to Work
In the first part of this series on domestic abuse, we talked about what it was, what all it entailed. In part two we talked about the people affected by domestic abuse. And in the third part we covered the different types of domestic abuse. (All the blogs are listed on the blog page under … Continue reading DV – Part IV – It’s a Choice!
Ten days into a new year. I have read so many short writings and articles about resolutions, non-resolutions, words for the year, being a better person, taking care of yourself in the new year…and it was all good! I love having a fresh start, a new beginning, a clean slate. It makes me … Continue reading Live Undaunted in 2019!
One of the first things I noticed when I started my journey as a domestic violence awareness advocate was the immediate and warm connection between victims and other victims, and victims with survivors. I have never shared so many hugs and tears in my life as I have since I’ve become an advocate. Why is … Continue reading You get it…You’ve been there.
Lundy Bancroft wrote a fabulous book entitled “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”. It’s the go-to book on abusers and a great read. It’s 408 pages long. So, obviously I’m not going to be able to cover all information as to why an abuser abuses in a … Continue reading DV – Part IV – Why do Abusers Abuse?
There is a widespread abusive tactic that a lot of people don’t realize is abuse, but truly, truly is one of the worst. That is joking. No, I’m not joking…the abuse is joking. Now, I have a wicked sense of humor and love to laugh and have a good time. But when the humor comes … Continue reading DV – Part III – Joking
The other day, as I sat watching tv, I realized how many commercials (in succession) targeted women and girls. The commercials had a few things in common. First, they began with selling the viewer a lie: that she is flawed. Then, they sold the viewer the solution: whatever their product was. In just an hour’s … Continue reading There Is Nothing Wrong with Us