One of the first things I noticed when I started my journey as a domestic violence awareness advocate was the immediate and warm connection between victims and other victims, and victims with survivors. I have never shared so many hugs and tears in my life as I have since I’ve become an advocate. Why is … Continue reading You get it…You’ve been there.
Lundy Bancroft wrote a fabulous book entitled “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”. It’s the go-to book on abusers and a great read. It’s 408 pages long. So, obviously I’m not going to be able to cover all information as to why an abuser abuses in a … Continue reading DV – Part IV – Why do Abusers Abuse?
There is a widespread abusive tactic that a lot of people don’t realize is abuse, but truly, truly is one of the worst. That is joking. No, I’m not joking…the abuse is joking. Now, I have a wicked sense of humor and love to laugh and have a good time. But when the humor comes … Continue reading DV – Part III – Joking
The other day, as I sat watching tv, I realized how many commercials (in succession) targeted women and girls. The commercials had a few things in common. First, they began with selling the viewer a lie: that she is flawed. Then, they sold the viewer the solution: whatever their product was. In just an hour’s … Continue reading There Is Nothing Wrong with Us
I have a quote on the wall directly in front of my desk in my home office and it says… “We don’t create abundance. Abundance is always present. We create limitations.” Arnold Patent Wow! It almost takes my breath away when I read that. Why? Because it’s true, because it’s obvious and because it’s as … Continue reading Limiting abundance
It seems like the isolation part of domestic abuse happens very gradually. You don’t even realize it is happening, but all of a sudden it hits you that you haven’t been out with your friends for months, barely see your family anymore and rush home after work or from getting groceries. You do it to … Continue reading DV – Part III – Isolation
What super power did you want when you were a kid? Heck, even as an adult, is there a super power you’d like to have? Mine has always been to be invisible. Not that I would want to do anything bad or play tricks on people like slamming doors or eating their food, I … Continue reading How to be invisible.
I have been extremely empathic my entire life. Perhaps that explains my calling into the healing arts. It's a weekly, no, DAILY struggle to be in this body and mind sometimes. I don't just feel for people, I feel DEEPLY for them. I suffer emotionally right along with people once I know their pains, … Continue reading Nothing Negative About Negative Space
A Path to Hope written by Rose Saad Being a Christian woman in an abusive relationship has its own set of unique and complicated problems. After all, we are taught that we are to be submissive and obedient to our husbands, that they are the head of the household and we answer to them. … Continue reading A Path to Hope – Restoring the Spirit of the abused Christian Woman
Sexual abuse is one of the hardest types of abuse to talk about. Not only is it opening the doors of your most private space to others, it carries with it the most shame for the victims. After all, it is the forceful invasion of your innermost being, whether that be physical or emotional. … Continue reading DV – Part III – Sexual Abuse