She may fear that she won’t be believed. So many abusers are very charismatic, fun-loving and charming when they are around other people. It’s not until they are behind closed doors that the other side of them is revealed
In the first part of this series on domestic abuse, we talked about what it was, what all it entailed. In part two we talked about the people affected by domestic abuse. And in the third part we covered the different types of domestic abuse. (All the blogs are listed on the blog page under … Continue reading DV – Part IV – It’s a Choice!
Lundy Bancroft wrote a fabulous book entitled “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”. It’s the go-to book on abusers and a great read. It’s 408 pages long. So, obviously I’m not going to be able to cover all information as to why an abuser abuses in a … Continue reading DV – Part IV – Why do Abusers Abuse?
It seems like the isolation part of domestic abuse happens very gradually. You don’t even realize it is happening, but all of a sudden it hits you that you haven’t been out with your friends for months, barely see your family anymore and rush home after work or from getting groceries. You do it to … Continue reading DV – Part III – Isolation
There are fewer things nearer or dearer to an abuser’s heart than money. Remember, an abuser is all about control, and money is one of the things that they will maintain control over with an iron fist. From wanting an account of how every penny is spent, to taking the victim’s pay and not letting … Continue reading DV – Part III – Financial Abuse
Religious abuse is a hot topic right now. There are situations in homes where the couple each follow their own religious beliefs and they may differ from that of their partner. The victim may be subject to ridicule and belittling by the abuser who doesn’t share the same beliefs. The abuser may even prevent the … Continue reading DV – Part III – Religious Abuse
"Gaslighting" is to manipulate someone by psychological means into questioning their own sanity. What can be more cruel than that? The term “Gaslighting” comes from a 1938 play Gaslight. In it, a man tries to convince his wife that she is going crazy. One of the ways he does it is to dim … Continue reading DV – Part III – Gaslighting
There are many types of abuse. I’m going to break them down a little. This post will cover emotional and mental abuse. Let me give you an example: There were times during my troubles when my husband didn’t want to do anything with me. He barely spoke to me. We never went out in … Continue reading DV – Part III – Emotional and Mental Abuse
My sister told me she would sometimes wake in the middle of the night and worry that I was lying in a pool of my own blood. My parents spent many longs days and sleepless nights worried about my safety. After my ordeal, my father read my book, Knight in Tarnished Armor, and it … Continue reading DV – Part II – Friends and Family
Domestic abuse is running rampant in the world. And yet, people still don’t want to talk about it. Perhaps it’s because those outside the relationship think it’s none of their business what goes on in another’s relationship. And to a certain extent they are right. I don’t want someone telling me how to conduct my … Continue reading Domestic Abuse – Part I