It can be hard to find someone who understands your struggle when you are a victim of domestic abuse and have been silent for so long. As a survivor, I have dedicated my life to supporting those who are suffering along a similar journey. Below are a few first hand accounts from victims of domestic violence with whom I have worked through the years.
I was so grateful to have the privilege to get to know Pam. See, I too, was in an abusive relationship – verbal and mental and sexual. It’s not something you ever get over, you just learn how to cope. This is something no one should have to go through, but it’s nice being able to talk openly with someone else who has. Pam helped me realize I had nothing to be ashamed of and the more I talked the easier it was. A person tends to hide, and not seek advice or help. It’s like you’re just trying to survive, but inside you’re slowly dying. Pam and her book help me to finally realize I wasn’t alone and what had happened was not my fault. My partner is a alcoholic, narcissistic abuser. The best therapy is to talk to others. It will bring everything to surface and you learn how to deal from there. I still have trouble trusting men and need to work on it. But I can say I finally have peace. God helps you through this. Pray, and God puts people in your life like Pam to help. I call them God’s Angels.
I want to express to you my total heartfelt appreciation for all you have done for me over these past few years. After going through my years of emotional and physical abuse I was finally free, or so I thought. Everyone that I was close to thought this also. Why was I still feeling so trapped, alone, afraid, and hundreds of other things that I was told I should have moved forward from? I found out why with loving support, knowledge, caring, and above all your understanding. You were the only one I had that told me what I was feeling was normal for a person that had suffered with the abuse that I had. Pam, you spent hours on the phone with me and this was before you ever met me. In my bad times when I would isolate and not talk or reach out to anyone, you would search me out with just a friendly “Hello” or “How are you doing?” You gave me light in my darkness. Because of the time we have spent together chatting or texting you have been the one to let me know that there was hope and I would survive. I just wanted you to know what you have done for me and how much you have helped me to become not only a domestic violence survivor but a warrior. God brought you into my life for a reason. I know that he has great plans for you and I am just waiting to see what he has in store for me. No matter what it is, I know that I now have a friend that will be there with me on my new path.
Love your sister in Christ and your warrior sister,